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As a Jungian Life Coach, I am just there beside them, helping to shine a light and explore with them.
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And maybe where there's blocks help them see, well, let's look through this little crack here, or let's look around this bend because when we get overwhelmed by Shania Shame, or like when it comes to doubt, I was called the Duke of Downington.
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So the Duke of Downington, we get caught up in that waltz of it.
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And so, having an outside observer, helping to ask questions that breaks us around, helping to do different visualizations and check in where in our body, we experience things helps us to basically bypass some of the barriers that we've set up for ourselves.
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This is Flavors of Emotions, expanding your emotional palate for a tastier life.
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My name is Kim Korte.
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Together, we explore how to make sense of our feelings through the lens of a chef understanding flavors in a recipe.
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I am here to help you refine your emotional palate to differentiate the emotions that shape your world.
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Hello, and welcome my dear friend and my very first guest ever on this podcast, Angelina Caporale.
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Angelina is a Jungian, a certified Jungian Life Coach.
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And in fact, she is on her way to getting a master's in it.
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She is amazing.
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And I think at the end of this, you will love her as much as me, if possible, but I think you might, and Angie, welcome I just got to get started with what is a Jungian Life Coach?
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Because I am sure there's a lot of people out there are like, uh, what is that?
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Thank you for asking and thank you for having me.
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So a Jungian Life Coach is based on Carl Jung's.
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Who is an amazing psychologist that was around the same time as Freud that was doing analytical psychology and his belief that the individuation process is the most important process for a human that we come here on this planet.
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And part of that process is diving into the collective unconscious.
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So the collective wisdom.
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That we all have access to and being able to pull out different parts that communicate with us to make aspects of ourself that we have shoved or deemed that are not a part of us into our shadow, a place of our unconscious.
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And while when things remain there, we act wonky.
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Sometimes things come up and we have knee jerk reactions and we respond in a certain way.
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That's not by choice.
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So by pulling things out of the shadow, working with the collective unconscious, working with archetypes, we can then.
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Integrate these aspects of ourself that become a part of our toolkits so that we, when things happen in our world, that we can respond from a place of choice and creation instead out of just feral instinct and out of fear.
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There's two aspects of that, that like I am totally into, which is, having your reactions be a choice and to not react to fear.
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So yes, all into that, just to help further clarify, because I know that the, Collective consciousness has been mentioned a lot and, how that works.
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Yes.
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So the collective consciousness is considered something that is available to everyone.
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And it's when we get to experience it more, it's considered that like, dreams and symbols come up to us and it's the way that the collective unconscious communicates with us.
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So dream analysis was really, really important in Jungian psychology and, where there's multitudes of levels of what the different symbols in the dreams could mean.
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So it could be something that means something directly to us and it could also have a bigger meaning in it that refers to what our whole world, everything that has been experienced in the evolution of man kind that we have that knowledge to draw upon, but it is like, think of it as like the etheric web of information.
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And your dreams are like a Google YouTube.
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So up pops this information that you need.
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Yeah, like my crazy dream the other night when I dreamt I was dying of cancer, and only had two or three weeks to live.
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These dreams feel so real, like, and you wake up and you're like, man, am I gonna die?
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But, you know, just so everyone knows, I called Angie pretty much first and was like, oh my god, I dreamt I had cancer, I was dying, and all these other things, and she's like, oh, it could be just change.
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So, yeah, you know, dreams are just a form of communication, and so it's not always true.
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And a big part of, like, our individuation process, which the individuation process is becoming more of our true self.
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So when we are young, we develop an ego, which is super important because that's how we survive and interact with the world.
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So we develop, like, these different personas that we put on that we learn are okay.
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for that time frame.
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And we need them.
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It's important.
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It's important to have a healthy ego and a healthy persona to navigate that.
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But then when we get to adulthood and we have more choice, then it's important to, uh, utilize those persona and ego choices to free us from the obligatory of what we assume is expected of us into our choice of action.
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So death In our dreams, death, and like, if you get a tarot card pulled, that is the death card, like in, they use it in horror movies all the time, and they're like, oh no, you're gonna die, watch out! Well, in, in this, in this realm, those are often times a sign that like, An old persona, an old habit of our ego can die, like the chrysalis, like basically a caterpillar dissolving into the goo to become the butterfly, to become more of your true self.
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So it is a death in a way.
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It is a dying of old obligations, of an old persona, an old aspect, but it's a transformation, not a permanent death.
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True.
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I agree.
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It's, it's symbolism.
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This is something I've been thinking about a lot, especially because we approach it differently, but it's really similar.
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It's just style, which is, you got to get over fear and, you've got to, to create what you want your future to be.
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And you, you said something about as adults, we have more choice.
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As I was an adult, because of how I was raised, I didn't feel like I had a lot of choices.
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And I still think that there's a lot of people who are droning on in life, doing what they think that they're supposed to do.
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And Behaving how they think they're supposed to be living the lifestyle, I'm supposed to be, married with five kids because that's what, everyone else did and not kind of paving their own way.
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And it feels like it, it's a part of our mental health issues and the fact that we can't be who we truly are, um, you know, in the in the gay community.
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That was a big part of who they are, but it's not always just these big things like our sexuality.
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It could be how we want to live in a career, you know, what we want to do in life.
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How do you help people get comfortable with making those kinds of changes or even going in to discover like, What, what it means to make those changes and to not be afraid and to find who you are.
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Yeah.
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Those are all great questions and lots of juiciness in that.
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So like the supposed tos and the shoulds can kill us.
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We can choke on all the supposed tos and the shoulds that we could have.
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I think one of the awesome things about Jungian Life Coaching is that there's no needing to get over fear or to push it away or to be like, Oh, I just like, I got over that.
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It's really befriending our fear or befriending our shame, or befriending our doubt because what we resist persists.
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So like the more that we resist it, the more it gets shoved into our shadow, the more it acts out.
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So by pushing away our fear, by pushing away our shame, the more we really kind of like feed the beast, you know, uh, of what it is.
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But if we befriend it, because Jungian Life Coaching and Jungian psych looks at it like, the fear, the shame, the doubt, it's all trying to protect us, and maybe it's a misguided protection, but the fact of the matter is, is it's really trying to be our friend to help us survive, and so by sitting with it, by actually sitting with the fear, or, um, even, like, I like to joke about, like, uh, dancing with my shame is I call her Shania Shame and we like talked about so like Shania.
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She no longer gets to drive the car of my life, but I have heard her out.
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And she may be in the backseat or hanging out or whatnot.
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Because sometimes shame is important.
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We need to realize when, we've done something wrong.
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That isn't in alignment with ourselves or how we want to be as a person.
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And also, shame doesn't get to drive the car just like fear doesn't get to drive the car when we make choices.
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So that's why, courage is moving forward despite fear.
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So it's not about killing our fear or I don't have fear anymore.
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It's about befriending it.
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Integrating it, sitting with it, see what it has to say, because really within its voice, it's like, what are you what are you trying to say here?
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And then once it's like sharing that with you where am I feeling it in my body?
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What does that experience look like?
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And what does it need from me?
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In Jungian Life Coaching, it really doesn't matter where in your past it is, but sometimes it comes up.
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You're like, oh, that was my five year old self.
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And I can sit with her and be like, I got you, girl.
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My little five year old me, I can be the adult that she needed at that time, or I can be the one that hugs her and comforts her, and I don't need to be, driven by my five year old aspect of fear anymore.
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So it's really a wonderful, beautiful process because it is totally, client led Each person in their own body have all the tools they need.
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As a Jungian Life Coach, I am just there beside them, helping to shine a light and explore with them.
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And maybe where there's blocks help them see, well, let's look through this little crack here, or let's look around this bend because when we get overwhelmed by Shania Shame, or like when it comes to doubt, I was called the Duke of Downington.
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So the Duke of Downington, we get caught up in that waltz of it.
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And so, having an outside observer, helping to ask questions that breaks us around, helping to do different visualizations and check in where in our body, we experience things helps us to basically bypass some of the barriers that we've set up for ourselves.
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You brought up a couple of things.
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One is, naming.
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You know, that in our house.
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Finnegan is blamed for a lot of stuff.
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So for those of you who don't know, Angie found our dog, Finnegan, on the streets eating bark.
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And I had just lost my cat, Max, who was.
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just my everything.
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She couldn't keep Finnegan and we fell in love and he's been in our life ever since.
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But our dear little Finnegan will get the blame for things.
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And it's great when you, make like little personas for things that, doesn't make the shame about you.
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It's, it's someone else.
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It's something else.
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It's, that Shania Shame.
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It's not you.
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It's Shania.
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I think that is just such a powerful tool because it helps us to work with our ego and it helps us to work with it and not make it who we are, but just something else.
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Super.
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I love that.
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Oh, I'm sorry.
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No, go ahead.
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And then I have a second point when you're done.
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Oh, it's just, I love that you use Finnegan with that because.
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Finnegan, you love him so much and he is your child and a part of your world.
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And so like, I think that that's a really good example.
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Like when it is our fear or our shame, like they're a part of our internal family.
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Like they're a part of our makeup and like, they are still an important part, even if they are acting up, so to speak.
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But they, they do bring richness to our life.
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So I love that it's Finnegan because if he's doing it, you love him unconditionally.
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You're not getting rid of Finnegan, but you're able to address that issue because you love him and can then utilize him as a tool to address these other things that are coming up to, to be little resolved issues.
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The other point I wanted to make was that, you know, even in a crowd we, we look and we think we see someone and we're like, Hey, there's So and so there's Joe and then we look again and we're like, Oh, wait, that's not Joe.
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It's just someone who looks a lot like Joe.
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And I think that we do that too with, you know, Frank Fear, whatever you name fear or Shania Shame.
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We can think we're recognizing it, but it's not.
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It's just something that kind of looks like it, but it's not really fear.
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It's that ability to examine it and, and say, Oh, wait, you know what?
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This isn't really anything to be afraid of.
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Because it's just not anything that's as fearful as I thought it was going to be.
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So I, think that's also helpful.
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A great thing about that naming because just like we can misperceive people that we think that we see, we can misperceive, um, our emotions and, and potentially be feeling something that is just a reaction, but might not necessarily be true.
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Well, that's perfect, too, because, in Jungian Life Coaching, it's the ego that sees things as that side of ourselves.
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So if someone is irritating us or things are happening.
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We're like, Oh, why is this happening to me?
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That's the ego aspect.
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Whereas the higher self like understands about like our power of creation.
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And so it is.
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about being like, okay, so what in this situation in this person is triggering this in me?
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So like that, like seeing that as an extension of ourself.
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So if we're like creating our own world and we're living from a place of creation, this person This fear, this, this situation is acting up to help give me a chance to heal, unearth something in my shadow, work on it, and integrate it.
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So that problem feeling, problem person, problem situation is a gift.
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And as sometimes we don't want that gift, we're tired, we're exhausted, and we're like, Ugh, give me a little less.
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But that is the gift of that situation is it allows us the opportunity to integrate more of what has been shoved away so that we have more tools, that we have more aspects that we can work with and work from.
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Because if someone's acting out And we're having a reaction to it.
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If a five year old is having a complete meltdown on the floor, we don't take that personally.
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We're like, that's rough to not have your lollipop buddy.
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Sorry about that.
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But it doesn't take over our emotions.
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We're not like, why was that child so upset?
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So when someone else triggers that in us.
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It's giving us this wonderful reflection and opportunity to explore more.
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It's true.
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I mean, we like to think that our emotions are because of other people.
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And that's one of the hardest things, I think, to really get to own.
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And to acknowledge because you know what happens when you start to own your feelings responsibility.
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And yeah, yuck.
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I'm always thinking about like emotions and podcast topics.
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And one of the things I was thinking about before we got started was the problem with wanting, and wanting.
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What I mean by that is like, we want to have better mental health.
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We want to have all these things, but we have a conflict with the other wants where I don't want to do what it takes to make that change.
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And so when you have the conflict of the wants, it's just a matter of which one is going to win out.
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Right?
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So in Jungian Life Coaching, we, we call that like other aspect, the resistance quality of that.
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And so like resistance is extra juicy in our books because that's where the, the gold is.
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It's like, Oh, let's dig into this resistance.
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If there, it's like, Ooh, there is something at the bottom of this, that is your gold.
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That is like the key to your freedom in this situation.
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It's like.
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What is at the bottom of it?
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Is it the fear of death?
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The fear of being alone?
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Is it shame?
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Is it sadness?
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Who is our friend at the bottom that is like, I'll need attention.
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So we dive into that, lean into that want that resistance.
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Anytime that there's, a trigger, there's these dueling wants or a live emotion that comes up, that's the good stuff to delve into.
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Very sweet.
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It's, it's, it's the gold for you to get into, but people.
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are resistant to change.
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There's a serious comfort with knowing that feeling that you've had for years and years and years.
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And what would it feel like to, to not feel it?
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And how do you, how do you help people to get past just the resistance of, investigating.
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Yeah.
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So I, I would argue actually that it's the gold for them because whether or not they break free of that, that does, I mean, like, I want them to be free and to be their, their like most living alive self, but like that's, I get it.
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That's the journey for them.
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Yeah.
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They don't,
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They don't see the gold quite yet.
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Right.
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Because The mining for the gold can be difficult.
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You have to hike over terrain.
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There's like getting the equipment So in that resistance, what I always like to warn people, I'm like, so are you sure you want to do this work?
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Is this something that you actually want to do?
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Because it's not, I wouldn't say what it's like easy.
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It's not always about feeling good.
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Because the aspect of it is that when there is something uncomfortable, we get to sit in it.
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Like, oh, I'll get down there in the mud with you.
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We're going to sit in it and there's going to be some twigs poking us.
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Maybe there's something moving in the mud.
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We'll like, check that out together.
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But we get to get comfortable with sitting in the uncomfortable.
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Because in that discomfort and the more you wait it out, the more information we get, the more things open.
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So just like when someone's sculpting from marble or carving a stone or pressing a diamond, like those different works of art, they don't just come about because they were just lulling about in the sun.
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It's because they were carving away, digging in, into the, the depths of it to unleash itself.
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So we will sit in that discomfort together.
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And it is totally normal to want to, to escape from that because, I mean, like evolutionary wise, we survive because we're like, if this hurts, I don't keep touching it.
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Right.
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We survived from those instincts and now we're going beyond survival.
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We're wanting to get into thriving.
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And these different higher levels of being our true self, not just out of making sure that we're fed and we have a house over our heads, but out of following our soul's purpose, our life's purpose.
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And that involves undoing some of the things that just kept us alive.
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Because when you're bleeding, when you're in an emergency room, it doesn't matter, we don't care about that, scar or whatever, we just want to stop the bleeding, but now we're no longer bleeding, coaching is for when you, you're at a pretty good point, but you want to move forward, you're like, I'm, I'm not doing my full potential, I'm not Getting to the places where I want to go, I keep self sabotaging.
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I mean, you know, this about me is there's been many times over the years where I started on a path and then I, like, hid back in my little hidey hole because I was not ready.
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Can't, can't want to.
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No, that's scary.
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The resistance is real, real.
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And nobody, nobody is immune from that.
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And also we don't beat ourselves up about that resistance.
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There's always going to be another call to adventure.
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There's always going to be that we don't want to like, when we're ready to not just be waiting for the next call to adventure when we're like, okay, no, it is more.
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Uncomfortable to stay in my life where it is now, even if it's pretty good, like you're like, yeah, I have a great place.
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I have wonderful friends.
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I have a great partner.
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My job's decent, cool, but something's missing.
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So there's a certain point where we decide it's worth that discomfort because the discomfort of growth is less uncomfortable than the discomfort of staying where we are.
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I like to to caveat this kind of stuff because I don't think it's always as uncomfortable as we think it's going to be like we do have this predictive nature.
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And when you talk about playing in the mud or sitting in the mud with someone, it's not always like, you know, thick mud up to your neck.
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Getting real dirty.
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I think the value of what you do is, is great.
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And I know that you've helped a lot of people.
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This Jungian Life Coach is one tool in a myriad of tools that you have in your toolbox.
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It's not always overwhelming.
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I'm only saying this because if anyone's like, Oh, I don't want to get in the mud.
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I think that's really important is that you're making it playful.
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You're it's serious, but at the same time, just like you did with Shania Shame.
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It's getting a little bit uncomfortable, but also creating some comfort around the discomfort.
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And then the other thing I was thinking about is If we're just trying to carve out how we want our life to be there's definitely times where I know you have to look back.
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And because if the scar had healed up perfectly, and there's no, no problem with all the things that happened in life.